Hello 2010! I am kicking ass and taking names! Well, maybe not in the literal sense. LOL I am so excited. January 1st ushered in a brand new journey for me. I know most people don’t believe in “do overs” but I am one who does. Each year we are all given the same amount of time (hours, days, weeks, months). It’s up to us to make the most of that time. Some of us use it wisely, some of us squander it. But each year, at the stroke of midnight, January 1st, we all get a chance to do it all again. Each year I refuse to make resolutions. We all know that many of us end up not sticking to them anyway, so what’s the point? I choose instead to make goals. Each December 31st I sit and reflect on the year that was. I look back and see what goals I hit and which ones I missed. The ones I missed, I just move them forward. It makes no sense to dwell on what I didn’t do because I get a chance to make it happen all over again this year. And so do you.

2010 is indeed a great year waiting to happen for me. As you already know, I have several things in the works that will soon be launched for the world to see. The new magazine, internet TV channel, the institute, and a series of books and programs that are designed to help women live their best professional life. It wasn’t easy to pull all of that together! Let me tell you, I had to dig down deep within me to bring out the best information and knowledge that would help business and career women. It wasn’t as simple as me throwing a few things down on paper or recording a few “right sounding” sound bites. I had to dig deep into my own experiences over the years, heck even current experiences, to bring the kind of content and ideas that I know will help you all (or at least most of you). It wasn’t about ego or status or showing how smart I am. it was about thinking back to when I had no where to turn for advice. It was pre-internet when I couldn’t just “Google it”. So I do hope you find the education and services helpful and inspiring.

But that’s not all 2010 is about. I’ve spent the last year or so really getting to know me…the good, the bad, and the ugly. And you know, I love what I’ve discovered. So many people work so hard to put on a persona, brand or image that they aren’t to their core. Of the things I learned about myself is that I am so much stronger than I could ever have known. I made it through a hellified decade. It had some great ups and some really hard downs. Those hard downs contributed to making me the woman I am today. One thing I learned about myself is I have a low tolerance for bullshit and phoniness. I am who I am and can’t (rather, won’t) be anything else. With social media stronger than ever it’s easy for people to lose themselves or hire others who speak on their behalf. I’m noticing celebrities and other busy people are doing it. That bothers me. I’m all about the WYSIWYG theory (what you see is what you get). I speak my own words, I tweet my own messages, I post my own posts. People will either accept me or not.

There’s been a lot of talk about truth and realism and authenticity. I can’t speak for others, but I plan to keep it as real, truthful and authentic as I can. And that is going to include me speaking my mind. Some people won’t like what I have to say, but you know the old saying “the truth hurts”. I am 40. I don’t have time to sugar coat and beat around the bush. I don’t have time to get caught up in gossip, speculation or mean spirited conversations. I simply don’t care enough about trivial issues. More than a few people got left behind in 2009 because of that. If you’re not about positivity, you can’t be in my circle. Period. And if you find yourself having to talk negatively about others, stop and take a look in the mirror. You may not like what you see. That negativity may just be a reflection of what’s going on within. Make the decision. Are you being constructively truthful or hatefully negative? There’s a difference, but a very fine line.

Today I am even more driven than before. I see the opportunities in front of me and I’d be a fool to pass them by. I want to push the envelope and do things that will edge me out of my comfort zone. I want to experience things and try things that will allow me to develop personally and professionally. I’m not afraid to try. I think that’s where some people fall short. They get so caught up in fitting in and the status quo that they don’t challenge themselves to break out of mediocrity. Life is more than a weekly paycheck. There is no such thing as job security any more. So why put limitations on yourself? I want to try things even if there’s a possibility I might fail. If I fail, I’ll simply learn the lesson I was meant to learn and keep it moving. I am no longer afraid. There’s a reason my new magazine is called Fearless Woman Magazine and my book is about Fearless Networking. I don’t want to spend my life wondering what could have been. Instead I choose to LIVE life.

So now that we are into 2010 focus on the positive things in life. The negative should only serve to make you stronger, not defeat you. Don’t get stuck in mediocrity. Use this year to try new things and improve the areas you need to improve. Live life without the breaks on. Amazing things happen when you do that!

Til next time.

Adrienne Graham